"Meeting people's always a bit of a challenge. I'm a mom, I have a 3 year old at home, so I'm really busy - but I usually end up meeting people through friends. I don't get out as much as I used to."

"I enjoy one night stands, I've had one night stands in the past. I'm not sure right if I would right now, but again, I'm being more cautious these days. It's pretty hard - more of a fantasy. They don't really proliferate in my life right now. But I do enjoy them, especially on holiday, especially like on a beach, an exotic locale. That's quite fun, and you usually don't see the person again, which makes it more interesting."

"A classic example of courtship, I would say, would be my ex-husband who pursued me like wildfire - cooking me meals, following me on vacations, phoning me every 5 minutes...it was like I couldn't be alone. He did it in a very formal, chivalrous way that didn't really put me off, because if someone was pursuing me normally I'd find it a bit obsessive, but I wasn't put off because of the formality of it, like introducing me to his parents..."

"Dating is just a little more casual - it's like going for a drink or coffee. It's laissez-faire. There's not as much substance, it's fairly light."

"My biggest priority is that they like kids, because most of my time is spent with my child..."

"I do have a really big fear of commitment, in a sense of being really intimately overwhelmed, so I have a tendency to distance myself quite a bit from commitment. Yet it's ironic because in my marriage I was pursuing it and it kept evading me, so it's kind of like the tables were turned."

"When I was younger - 18-26 - I strongly identified myself as a lesbian, so for about 7 years, I was almost exclusively with women and I'd see men on the side, but felt quite ashamed about it, because the early 90's for me was a very political time, especially being out there as a lesbian - and I found it really difficult, actually, I didn't feel I ever fit into the classic lesbian genre...All of a sudden, I just did a 360, and I became really interested in men….That's when I met my husband. He was the second man I'd been with in 7 years, and I married him."

"I came from a family where divorce was rampant for 3 generations - all my grandparents, my parents, had all been alone when they'd gotten older, and that was a fear of mine. I wanted to keep the nuclear family together, but my partner hadn't had those experiences"

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